What if Words...

"Words are effective but there is nothing more effective than the rightly timed paused! How many times have you said to yourself...I wish I hadn't said that. Or that wasn't the right thing to say. "If only we all just took a few seconds to pause before one word was spoken. Imagine how much more meaningful conversations would be. Especially to those of us who speak first then think! Or to those of us who have to have the last word. I bet if everyone took a few seconds to pause there would be a lot less time spent arguing and more time spent understanding someone elses's point if view! Just Pause...

What if today you could work in a job anywhere in the world what would it be...

Wow, that's a good one and hard to give just one answer. But what comes to my mind first is being in a court room giving my closing arguements in a high profile case. Not sure if I'm the defense attorney or the prosecution. But that was the flash that came through my mind instantly! For a day...that would be great, as a career no thanks. Prob why I didn't go to Law school like I set out to do when I went to London and worked as an intern at Victor Mischon and Company. Now I am the Judge the Jury the defense and the prosecution team in my house with my kids and hubby and that's about all I can take! Cheers

What if you could take it back...

Words that is! Is there something you have said that you wish you didn’t or you could just take back. I’m sure we all have uttered a few things we later regret.
Taking them back once they are out there can be very difficult if not impossible.

Especially the written word. That’s the problem with words, they are very very powerful and they pack a punch. Hence the expression, “choose your words carefully.” Honestly, If I could take back anything it wouldn’t actually be the words I’ve said to someone. I have said a few things in my day that I probalby shouldn’t have, but no regrets. For me its more about the the time I’ve wasted saying them. I’ve learned through a great deal of aggrevation that sometimes you just have to get off your position!

It’s not that important to prove your point. As long as you feel convicted in your beliefs, then why waste your breath? Use those precious minutes for something else. I know sometimes you have to be breathy and make a point, as others will benefit from your words of wisdom. But, and I quote from a wonderfully insightful friend, ” Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it.” I know you don’t actually have enemies or at least I hope you don’t , but you get it, right? Save your energy and your words for things that matter. Moving forward say what you mean and mean what you say. Once you’ve said it you can’t take it back. If it would make you feel better to take something back go to www.whatifbag.com and Bag it. It can be really liberating to just get it get it off your chest.

Words equal power, they make us laugh and cry, they enlighten and entertain, seduce and surprise. Choice them wisely. What if you could take something you’ve said back…what would it be. For m it’s time, and I can’t get that back. So, I’m going to spend my time and energy with words that really matter!

What if you always choose forgiveness...

This was a "Whatif" question submitted by a user. I thought it was thoughtful and very thought provoking so I decided to make it a featured question on www.whatifbag.com to see how others would respond. I know we have all been hurt in some way by someone else before so I believe forgiveness plays a role in all our lives. Some people are better at it than others even in the worst situations. So may next question is... What's their secret? In reading the question again, I wondered if the person who wrote it was struggling with forgiveness and they were looking for clarity or hoping for some insight in others answers. In any event, I found myself wanting to answer the question right away. I believe that in order to really be free of negative feelings, forgiveness is the best way to move out of a painful place to a place of peace. Forgiveness is very freeing. But that doesn't mean it doesn't change your opinion of someone. Forgiveness to me is definitely the healthy choice. Resentment and holding onto negative emotions only hurts you and will continue to tear you down. So yes, go ahead and choose forgiveness all the time and leave it with the other person. My question then becomes...Can you forgive someone and also forget? That's were it gets tricky for me. Forgetting is not as easy. People define themselves by their words and by their actions, so instead of forgetting I think for me it has be called being able to "let go." I mean you may not want to forget that someone is a real asshole and you can decide how much you will allow them to become a part of your life. But you can forgive them and just let it go. Then you are free and able to move on! Maybe they will follow suit and become better people too. Maybe not, but at least you are good with you!

What if you could get a runners high!

Just did! Ran 10 miles today with my all time favorite running buddy! We knocked it out, talked the entire way laughed, vented, organized plans for parites and just worked through anything that might weigh you down! Just that alone is worth the time on the road! Then of course there is the cherry on the cake...that runners high! So so worth it!

What if You could Write...

The front page headline for the New York Times? What would your topic be? What thoughts or point of view would you like to impart? You have a tremendous audience. Consider this a privilege, a special right and an honor. Words = power! So, Choose your words very carefully. Go to www.whatifbag.com and give us an excerpt from your front page article!